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Silvia Shares: About the End and the Rebuilding of Teams

I once missed out on a job I really wanted because of the way I answered this question: “How do you feel about managing?”

My reply: “I’m interested in managing projects, stakeholders, and vendors, but at this time I would prefer not to have people reporting directly to me.”

The feedback from the hiring manager was that my answer made it clear that I was afraid to take charge.  When I shared this feedback with my husband, he laughed unapologetically.  You can infer that I can be a bossy wife.  It’s true.  I’m not afraid to take charge. So why did I say that in a job interview?

What I tried to explain at the time, but clearly didn’t do well enough, is that I had just lost my dream team.  A group of friends, brought onboard over a period of two years.  A group of professionals, each of whom was multilingual and multitalented.  A group of winners, by design. Then one day, because of a global recession, the team was reduced to two.  It no longer made sense for me to call myself the lead of just one team member. So, we decided to split the remaining work equally, and do it all: content creation, vendor management, localization validation, HTML, Flash, even something that wasn’t yet called UI and UX testing.

My dream team wasn’t made up of co-workers.  Those special people had become my brothers and sisters.  I tried desperately to keep in touch equally with each through the years.  It’s been almost a decade, and somehow, some of us have kept in close contact.

  • Am I ready to lead a new dream team? Yes!
  • Have I been lucky enough to be part of other dream teams since then? Yes!
  • Will the dream end again? Yes!
  • Is it worth building dream teams? Yes!

As painful as the end is, the ride is totally worth it, and the high is why you got in the business in the first place.  As with Sports, the end of the season is the end of the dream team.  You can try bringing the same players back, and pretending it will all be exactly the same, but it will be different.  The only sport I get really passionate about is Men’s Soccer.  Even then, I only allow myself to get fully immersed in the experience every four years, during the World Cup.  Believing is emotionally draining.  Supporting is exhausting.  But the high, the euphoria you experience when your dream team wins…you’ll remember that forever.

It’s time to build your next dream team.

Photo credit: Texas A&M / Peter Ned

Silvia Spiva
Silvia Spiva
Silvia K. Spiva is a Multicultural Marketer, creating content for global audiences, from the heart of Silicon Valley. Her passions include children's literacy, STEAM (science, technology, engineering, arts, and math), and finding ways to bridge if not crush the #DigitalDivide.


  1. Hi Silvia
    Thanks for sharing that! This is very important and thanks for not being too theoretical about the subject. I find it hard to get actual experiences in articles. Usually it’s just theory and so far away from practices… like the people who write stuff where never really in that position.
    More from you please 🙂

    • I’m glad my story was of value to you. Thank you! It’s not easy to share something so personal, but in a way it celebrates the efforts of my former and future team mates.

  2. I would literally have answered that question the same way – and not gotten that job either. And, good! Because if people can’t handle authenticity, then they don’t deserve you. I think it’s all about the team – if you can get to the place where you trust the people around you, and know they’re invested in your success, then you can take charge. It’s hard at first.


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