Emotional Intelligence (EI) si luso lofewa koma chimango momwe luso lofewa limakhalamo. Pali kufunikira kowonjezeka kwa maluso abwino pomwe mabungwe akufuna ogwira ntchito atsopano. Ngakhale mabungwe ambiri oterewa sangavomereze, ambiri aiwo akuyeserera Emotional Intelligence pamafunso aliwonse pantchito.
Tsopano ndikuganiza kuti mwabwera kudzaphunzira zambiri za Emotional Intelligence ndipo ndizomwe ndikufuna kukupatsirani, komabe sindikufuna kutanthauzira Emotional Intelligence ndi nkhaniyi koma kuwonetsa zomwe ndakumana nazo pamutuwu ndikukhulupirira kuti muwona kuti ndiwothandiza.
Kodi Luntha Lamaganizidwe ndi Chiyani?
Emotional Intelligence yonse ndi luso lomwe limagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti mumvetsetse ndikusamalira zomwe zili mkati ndi kunja. Sizochita kukakamiza osati za kupondereza kutengeka, koma za kuwongolera, kuzindikira ndi kulingalira ndipo zitha kukonza momwe mumalumikizirana ndi ena komanso momwe mumamvera tsiku lanu lonse ndipo pamapeto pake zitha kukhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Umu ndi momwe Wikipedia amafotokozera Emotional Intelligence:
Emotional Intelligence (EI) ndikutha kuwunika momwe anthu akumvera komanso malingaliro a ena, kusankha pakati pamalingaliro osiyanasiyana ndikuwatchula moyenera, ndikugwiritsa ntchito zidziwitso zamalingaliro kuwongolera kulingalira ndi machitidwe.
Kodi Maganizo Ndi Otani?
Mosiyana ndi malingaliro, omwe amakhala ndi nthawi yayitali, malingaliro ndi zikhumbo mkati mwa thupi lanu zomwe zimakutumizirani chizindikiro cha momwe muyenera kukhalira. Monga chilichonse chokhudza thupi lanu ntchitoyi imagwira ntchito mwakuthupi, mwakuthupi komanso pagulu ndi cholinga chotsimikizika.
Sizachilendo kuti anthu zimawavuta kufotokoza ndikufotokozera momwe akumvera. Izi ndizabwinobwino ndipo ngati simukudziwa ngati mwatsimikiza mtima kapena ayi, ndizotheka kuyang'ana momwe mukumvera mumakhulupirira kuti mukumva mudikishonale ndikuwona ngati momwemonso mukumvera pakadali pano. Mchitidwewu umakuphunzitsani mwachangu mozungulira momwe mukumvera ndikutanthauzira kwawo. Nthawi ina mukamadzimva, simudzakhalanso ndi zovuta kufotokoza momwe akumvera.
Kutengeka kulikonse, ngati kuli kochokera mumtima, sikumangodzichitira zokha. ”
- Mark Twain
Kutengeka nthawi zambiri kumakhala zisonyezo ngati mukufuna china chake (mwachitsanzo nsanje) kapena simukufuna china chake. (mwachitsanzo kunyansidwa). Izi zitha kuchitika mwamtundu uliwonse wamphamvu zakumverera kuchokera kumtsinje "wokonda" kukhala wamantha kapena wamantha. Ngati mukuwopa china chake nthawi zambiri, mumakhulupirira kuti chitha kukupweteketsani mtima chifukwa chodziteteza.
Mtundu umodzi wamalingaliro osalankhula (chilankhulo chamthupi) ndi kulumikizana mwachangu, yomwe ndi imodzi mwamgalimoto yamphamvu kwambiri yotengera kutengeka. Kugwiranagwirana kumbuyo kapena kukumbatirana pakati pa abwenzi kumatha kuyankhulana ndikulimbikitsa pamunthu wina. Patsamba linalo, kutha kwa kulumikizana kokwanira, kungakhale nkhonya pamaso, ndikumakhala ndi malingaliro osafunikira kwenikweni.
Kudalira
Pali zinthu zina polumikizana ndi kulumikizana ndi anthu ena zomwe ndizodalira luso lanu la Emotional Intelligence. Mwachitsanzo, mumadalira anzanu olumikizana nawo komanso kuthekera kwawo kuti amvetsetse momwe akumvera ndikuwongolera momwemonso amadalira inu kuti zomwezo zichitike. Zotsatira zake ndikulankhulana koyenera.
Zodalira zina ndizochita zamagulu zomwe mumakumana nazo komanso kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe (kuphatikiza kusiyanasiyana pakati pa anthu) komanso kuchuluka kwa kumvera ena chisoni komanso momwe akumvera chifukwa cha inu.
Categories
Pakuwerenga kwasayansi Emotional Intelligence imagawika m'magulu anayi omwe ndi awa:
- Kudziwitsa Komwe - Kuzindikira ndikumvetsetsa zomwe mukumva
- Kudziletsa - Kusamalira momwe mukumvera mumtima
- Kudziwitsa anthu ena - Kuzindikira ndikuwongolera momwe ena akumvera
- Kusamalira momwe anthu ena akumvera - Osati kuwongolera momwe ena akumvera koma kuyembekezera ndikuyendetsa mogwirizana
Kulephera pa Nzeru Zam'mtima
Palibe "kulephera" kovuta potengera gawo linalake koma ngati zomwe mukumva zikuponderezedwa apeza njira ina pamwamba - ndi "kutayikira". Kutayikira koteroko kumatha kukhala ndi mawonekedwe ambiri. Kungakhale kuwopsya, kuzunza ena, kuchita zankhanza kapena kulira. Ngati mukulepheretsa ena kuwonetsa momwe akumvera ndi malingaliro awo mwina nkuthekanso kuti mungawachitire zomwezo kapena zofanana nawo ngati alibe njira zowavutikira.
Popeza kuti izi zitha kubweretsa zovuta pazomwe mukusintha komanso pamapeto pake thanzi lanu, ndizotheka kuti anthu ena omwe azindikira khalidweli adzafuna kuyandikira kwa inu. Pofuna kupewa izi ndibwino kuyankhula poyera ndikupatsa mwayi malingaliro ndi malingaliro kuti amasulidwe moyenera, koyambirira, pomwe kusinthana kwa chidziwitso kumawonjezera phindu kwa onse omwe akukhudzidwa. Kuchedwa kumayambitsa zipsinjo ndi sewero lomwe lingapewe popanda kuwonongeka kwa malingaliro ngati kukhudzika kuyendetsedwa bwino.
Kodi Mungatani Kuti Ndithandizire Kukhala Wanzeru?
Nawa malingaliro anga apamwamba omwe atha kukhazikitsidwa mosavuta m'moyo wanu ndikuthandizani kwambiri kukulitsa luso lanu Lazomvera:
- Kusamala ndichinsinsi chodziwitsa
Ngati mukukumbukira momwe mukumvera, momwe mumakhalira komanso malo omwe mumakhala nawo mumakwanitsa kuzindikira komwe kumakupatsani mwayi wosamalira momwe mukumvera. Ngati simungathe kuzindikira momwe mukumvera, musayembekezere kuti ena atha kuchita izi. - Lembani nkhani yosangalatsa
Jambulani zochitika ndi momwe mumamvera munyimbo tsiku lonse ndikuyesa kumapeto kwa sabata. Pokhala ndi malingaliro abwino komanso kunja kwa zochitikazo mulibe lingaliro la ndale ndipo mudzatha kugawa momwe mumamvera ndikupeza chomwe chimayambitsa zabwino komanso zoyipa. Yesetsani kupewa chilichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kudzimva mobwerezabwereza kapena kuthetsa vutoli kwamuyaya. - Lumikizani zomanga ndi NLP anchors
Phunzirani zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva bwino ndikuwonjezera zochitika zoterezi m'moyo wanu. Ngati ndi munthu ndiye patulani nthawi yochulukirapo ndi munthuyo ndipo ngati ndi chakudya chomwe mumakonda - onetsetsani kuti nthawi zonse muli ndi gawo lake mu furiji yanu. Kachitidwe ka nangula wa NLP ndizofanana kwambiri ndi izi koma zimatengera zinthu zenizeni monga kukumbukira ulendo wosangalatsa watchuthi womwe mudakhala nawo zaka zingapo zapitazo kudziko lomwe mumakonda kwambiri tchuthi. Zambiri pa nangula za NLP zitha kupezeka m'nkhaniyi Trans4Mind.com ndi iyi NLPU.com. - kuleza
Ngati simuli mumkhalidwe wabwino muyenera kuyesetsa kukhazikika musanayambe kuyanjana. Izi ndizofala mukalandira maimelo okhumudwitsa. Ingodikirani kuti muyankhe ndi imelo yanu poyankha kapena yesetsani kulankhulana pang'onopang'ono mukamalankhula pafoni kapena mukamacheza pamasom'pamaso. Kufulumira kumabweretsa kulumikizana kocheperako.
Momwe Mungasamalirire Nsanje?
Nsanje ndi lingaliro limodzi lokha pakati pa ambiri koma popeza ndiomwe amayambitsa mikangano, ndikufuna kugawana nzeru za momwe nsanje ingagwirire ntchito poyendetsa bwino malingaliro.
Choyamba ndikufuna kunena kuti palibe vuto kukhala ndi nsanje komanso ndibwino kunena momasuka kuti umachitira nsanje munthu wina kapena china chake. Ndikuthokoza kwakanthawi komwe mungafune kukhala munthu ameneyo kapena kukhala ndi zomwe ali nazo.
Komabe kuyenera kukhala kotheka kuyika malingaliro amenewo ndi chifukwa. Ngakhale anthu nthawi zambiri samakhala zolengedwa zomveka, ndikudziwa kuti mutha kutero! Koma motani? Yesani kupenda momwe zinthu ziliri poyamba. Kodi mumachita nsanje? Chifukwa chani uli ndi nsanje nanga chani? Mwina Bob adagula galimoto yatsopano yabwino kwambiri yomwe nthawi zonse mumalakalaka mutakhala nayo. Zokwanira, magalimoto atsopano nthawi zonse amakhala abwino. Mwina Bob amakhala yekha mnyumba yaying'ono ndipo angotsala ndi ndalama zochepa chifukwa cha izi komanso chifukwa sanakwatire ndipo alibe ana. Kumbali inunso mutha kukwatiwa ndi ana m'nyumba yokongola yakumatauni. Ngati mumayang'ana zinthu mbali ina ndikufananiza mumazindikira kuti inu ndi Bob mulibwino.
"Nsanje ndiyo kuopa kuyerekezera."
- Max Frisch
Bob atakhala theka la ola kufunafuna malo oimikapo magalimoto pafupi ndi nyumba yake yapakati ndikubwera m'malo amdima opanda aliyense - mwina munthawi imeneyo ndi Bob amene amakusirirani.
Izi sizikunenedwa kuti zimasankhira aliyense chifukwa cha kakhalidwe kawo konse koma ndimikhalidwe yoyika zinthu moyenera. Chilichonse ndichachibale ndipo muyenera kuchiyika bwino. Mwadzidzidzi simulinso nsanje, komanso simukumva kuti muli pamwamba pa Bob - mumangokhalira kusangalala ndi iye ndi galimoto yake yatsopano. Mudangopambana kumvera chisoni ndikukhalabe osangalala.
Zosowa Zakumtima
Zina kupatula zosowa zakuthupi zomwe zimafunikira kuti thupi lanu likhale ndi moyo wosangalala (kapena kukhazikika m'maganizo) zimafunikira zosowa zina zomwe muyenera kuzisamalira. Ngati ndinu mtsogoleri wamtundu uliwonse muyenera kusamala kuti aliyense mgulu lanu akhale ndi mwayi wosamalira zosowazi:
- Kukhala otetezeka
- Ufulu ndi kuwongolera, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe mwasankha
- Kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira ndi koyenera
- Kuchita zinthu zopindulitsa, kukhala ndi cholinga ndi kuchita bwino (kumverera kuti ndinu oyenera komanso kuthekera, kutsutsidwa ndikukhala opanga)
- Mumalumikizidwa ndi ena, kuvomerezedwa, kuvomerezedwa, kuphatikizidwa (komwe muli)
Kulankhulana ndi Ena
Nawa maupangiri ozungulira kugwiritsa ntchito Emotional Intelligence pokambirana ndi ena:
- Fotokozani momveka bwino komanso moona mtima, auzeni ngati mulibe nthawi yoti azikhala nawo pakadali pano, ngati ndi choncho ndikukonzekera kudzipereka, m'malo mongowapatsa khutu lanu. (Nthano Yochulukitsa Zinthu ndi Dave Crenshaw)
- Mverani mwachangu ndikulimbikitsa ena kuti amalize malingaliro awo, osawonjezera mphamvu zakunja kwa "nkhani". Nthawi zambiri mikangano imatha kudzithetsa yokha posinthana momveka bwino zidziwitso zopanda ndale, osakhudzidwa nazo.
- Ngati simukudziwa zinazake, pitani mukawafunse kuti "Kodi ndikumvetsetsani, kuti mumamva ngati x?" Osaganizira kena kalikonse muzokambirana zotere chifukwa zimapangitsa kusiyana pakati pa mfundo zanu zonse zomwe ndizosafunikira.
- Konzani zidziwitso m'njira yoyenera.
- Pewani mawu abwino kwambiri momwe mungathere pokambirana. M'malo mongonena kuti "Chifukwa chiyani simusunga nthawi?!?" yesani kuti "Ndikuyamikira ngati mungafike msanga mtsogolo." Onani nkhani yanga yaposachedwa pa “Kufunsa Kuyamikira” kuti mumve zambiri za njira yolankhulirana yolimbikitsa.
Ndondomeko yamagalasi yolumikizana pakumvana:
- Phatikizani munthu wachitatu yemwe salowerera ndale kuti athandizire pakuwongolera mikangano.
- Mangani pamwamba pa zomwe wina akunena m'malo mwakutaya ndikuzinyalanyaza.
- Chidziwitso, nzeru ndi zokumana nazo ndizosunthika - musaiwale kuti mwina mungalakwitse pambuyo pake.
- Imani kuloza chala ndikuzindikira vuto lenileni limodzi
Malingaliro Otseka
Musaiwale kuti palibe amene alibe cholakwika ndipo ngakhale mukumva kuti simukuchita bwino pa Emotional Intelligence, mumandilumikizabe chifukwa chovomereza. Ndilo gawo loyamba kuti musinthe. Kudziwa mipata momwe mumalumikizirana ndi ena ndichizindikiro chabwino pamakhalidwe anu ndipo pamapeto pake ndi chisonyezo cha Nzeru Zamumtima komanso zokwanira kuposa kungomva kuti mukuchita bwino mosasamala kanthu za zomwe mukukambirana ndi aliyense nthawi.
Zikomo powerenga komanso monga nthawi zonse ndimakhala wokondwa kumva zamalingaliro anu m'gawo lama ndemanga pansipa.
Kuwerenga Kwambiri
Ngati mukufuna kufufuzanso nkhaniyi ndikupangira mabuku awa:
Nzeru Zam'mutu 2.0 Wolemba Travis Bradberry ndi Jean Greaves
Intelligence Emotional ndi Gill Hasson
Pitani Mukayikire Ndimu: Njira Zokuthandizani Kuti Mukhale Aluntha Wolemba Michael Cornwall
Chithunzi chojambula: Kaje Yomama
